Mean Mommies, revisited

 So I received this email yesterday evening from the mother that emailed me that nasty email:
Hey Meg,
I had chance to talk with Suzanne today and she let me know that you were kind of upset with me for what happened back in December with my "email goof" First I want to apologize. I was COMPLETELY mortified by what I did!!! I often have moments where I stick my foot in my mouth and that was big one.
I guess I hadn't been out in awhile and I got a little out of control! I wanted to apologize earlier but I was never sure if you actually got the email so I didn't want to bring it up if nothing had occurred. I wish I had found out sooner so I could address the issue. Anyway I hope we can put it behind us since I'm sure we'll see each other at many club activities. Again my sincerest apologies!!


My Response:
Honestly, I have been in mom's groups since Hunter was 4 months and have been running it for 3 years now. I have seen mom's like you come and go. As for us and the group, I am fine with continuing the way things are. I feel that I am nothing but polite to you when we are in close proximity, and smile at you, as if you are a stranger I am passing in walmart. I am not interest in being any more with you. I will not and have not tried to play sides or make others feel unconformable about our situation, including the other ladies involved in this email. I truly wish I could have been blissfully ignorant of your callous but feel lucky that I did not
invest and time or energy into our relationship. As I have spent little time with the other ladies El and Kelli, I am disappointed that they had to be introduced to my family in such a way, but so far I have had no real issues with either. Plus they seemed to have enough self control to limit their gossip to the adults in the conversation, that might be considered sticking your foot in your mouth.

As for what you said about me, I know it is fun for some to blow things out of proportion and gossip about it. However, to bubble over with excitement to call another adult and belittle a 3 year old who is trying his best to deal with the situation that he has no choice to be in is disgusting and deplorable. You should be ashamed. Next time you feel like throwing around such comments, think of how you would feel if someone said that about your child(ren) needing to be strongly medicated. Hunter is an amazing child, he has energy, spunk and
wonderful manors that many parents would dream to have. Yes he tends to get excited to see other children and hope they would run around and play with him. If you thought he was trying to hurt your children is silly, but you should have spoke up then so I could have recognized your concern and done something about it. If you ever have more children than arms, maybe you could come close to understand just how ignorant you sounded. I am sure Kelli understand how hard it can be for her older child to compensate with the twins. El commented, at the under 2s playgroup, that she is worried what other people might say about her son as he grows up . If you want to be childish and say unkind things about people, than leave it between the adults. Being a mother means at least fighting for the children to have a fair chance.

I have no idea why you would think that what you just sent me was sincere or an apology. First off start with the truth. You know I received the email. You talked about it with other mothers at the Dec dinner party. You told them that I didn't want to be your friend because you said my son was "hyper." We do not email, we do not facebook, we have had NO contact since your "email goof." When we see each other at events I do not make any attempt to speak with you or even spend my time around you. I came to the cookie exchange because I am an adult and made a commitment. I have had no other issues in integrating into the multiples group. I am a positive and kind person. I think there are plenty of people in this group that we rarely have
to be together. If you plan on getting involved with the offices as do I then we will each do our assigned jobs and leave it at that.

I have never said or done anything till now. However in the future I would appreciate it if you would not speak of my family and especially my children. It is behind me. Honestly Yours, Meg

JUST KIDDING, I didn't send it. I really wanted to but these are the thoughts in my heads and saying it out loud makes me feel better but sending it would not make things any better. At the moment I am not going to respond but it has really taken the wind out of my sail for my first marathon this weekend and I am still feeling depressed having to live it again.