Mean Mommies, revisited

 So I received this email yesterday evening from the mother that emailed me that nasty email:
Hey Meg,
I had chance to talk with Suzanne today and she let me know that you were kind of upset with me for what happened back in December with my "email goof" First I want to apologize. I was COMPLETELY mortified by what I did!!! I often have moments where I stick my foot in my mouth and that was big one.
I guess I hadn't been out in awhile and I got a little out of control! I wanted to apologize earlier but I was never sure if you actually got the email so I didn't want to bring it up if nothing had occurred. I wish I had found out sooner so I could address the issue. Anyway I hope we can put it behind us since I'm sure we'll see each other at many club activities. Again my sincerest apologies!!


My Response:
Honestly, I have been in mom's groups since Hunter was 4 months and have been running it for 3 years now. I have seen mom's like you come and go. As for us and the group, I am fine with continuing the way things are. I feel that I am nothing but polite to you when we are in close proximity, and smile at you, as if you are a stranger I am passing in walmart. I am not interest in being any more with you. I will not and have not tried to play sides or make others feel unconformable about our situation, including the other ladies involved in this email. I truly wish I could have been blissfully ignorant of your callous but feel lucky that I did not
invest and time or energy into our relationship. As I have spent little time with the other ladies El and Kelli, I am disappointed that they had to be introduced to my family in such a way, but so far I have had no real issues with either. Plus they seemed to have enough self control to limit their gossip to the adults in the conversation, that might be considered sticking your foot in your mouth.

As for what you said about me, I know it is fun for some to blow things out of proportion and gossip about it. However, to bubble over with excitement to call another adult and belittle a 3 year old who is trying his best to deal with the situation that he has no choice to be in is disgusting and deplorable. You should be ashamed. Next time you feel like throwing around such comments, think of how you would feel if someone said that about your child(ren) needing to be strongly medicated. Hunter is an amazing child, he has energy, spunk and
wonderful manors that many parents would dream to have. Yes he tends to get excited to see other children and hope they would run around and play with him. If you thought he was trying to hurt your children is silly, but you should have spoke up then so I could have recognized your concern and done something about it. If you ever have more children than arms, maybe you could come close to understand just how ignorant you sounded. I am sure Kelli understand how hard it can be for her older child to compensate with the twins. El commented, at the under 2s playgroup, that she is worried what other people might say about her son as he grows up . If you want to be childish and say unkind things about people, than leave it between the adults. Being a mother means at least fighting for the children to have a fair chance.

I have no idea why you would think that what you just sent me was sincere or an apology. First off start with the truth. You know I received the email. You talked about it with other mothers at the Dec dinner party. You told them that I didn't want to be your friend because you said my son was "hyper." We do not email, we do not facebook, we have had NO contact since your "email goof." When we see each other at events I do not make any attempt to speak with you or even spend my time around you. I came to the cookie exchange because I am an adult and made a commitment. I have had no other issues in integrating into the multiples group. I am a positive and kind person. I think there are plenty of people in this group that we rarely have
to be together. If you plan on getting involved with the offices as do I then we will each do our assigned jobs and leave it at that.

I have never said or done anything till now. However in the future I would appreciate it if you would not speak of my family and especially my children. It is behind me. Honestly Yours, Meg

JUST KIDDING, I didn't send it. I really wanted to but these are the thoughts in my heads and saying it out loud makes me feel better but sending it would not make things any better. At the moment I am not going to respond but it has really taken the wind out of my sail for my first marathon this weekend and I am still feeling depressed having to live it again.

The Runner, The Walker, The Toddler, and The Diva

So as we watch our Four kiddos grow it is amazing to see how each makes their first strides in this world.
 

Hunter was about 10 months when he started walking. He never really crawled. Daddy played the largest role, placing Hunter standing against the couch and letting him take a few steps at a time. Each day Keith would move farther and farther away. As this being our first child, we were amazed watching Hunter come into his own. Now I would be happy if he would sit for more than a minute or two while his eye are open for the day. Going every minute. Now it is great because I can take him outside and run all over the place with him, playing tag or just trying one of the new games he has made up. If only I had started this earlier to be able to remember in more detail all the amazing adventures me and my copilot had. He was and is my everything and I wish we could have more fun filled times together. These days I feel like a witch to him. He has so much love for us all and wanted to kiss, hug and roll around with the babies all day. Unfortunately, they are still not big enough yet. Mommy needs to find other ways to make the day better for us all, esp him. Having three babies at one time has impacted his life in so many ways. We are very lucky he is such a loving and sweet hearted kid. Otherwise this would be much harder.

I guess I should ask Keith for details like exact start dates and such because time and dates have not been my friend for years now. When you stay home all day things start running together.

Cole: He picked things up fast. I would call him our walker. As all three of them are, he is the 2nd dare devil in the group. He doesn't need to hold onto anything and he try's to get into everything. Again Keith loves to work with them to walk. Even pulling something in his back because he does it over and over again, now with three children at once. Watching Cole these days you would think what a natural. Stands from a sit and takes off. Loves going everywhere and only wants to walk there. He is my Gross Motor Big Shot and Fine Motor Clown.

Luke: He is very willing. He loves to be clapped for, clapping for himself and everyone else. He is so fun loving, happy and has an all around great attitude. These days he is signing and dancing. Even though he is baby A I would say he is right in the middle activity wise of the others. He has both fine and gross motor skills. He is a lover but rather self sooth unless one of his brothers or sister is messing with him which they often do. He started toddling not long after Cole, but still doesn't have the best balance. He still has to pull up to stand but would rather try to walk everywhere and if he falls them oh well he will finish with a crawl. One of the things that I think is so priceless is the way he lights up with a big smile and crest-ant moon eyes. Reminds me of Hunter's big smiles when he was a little one. Lastly he is like his mommy. Silkie blanket in hand and thumb in mouth. I guess braces are in our future with this one.

Addison: Oh lord where to start with this one, The DIVA. I guess this being our only girl I didn't really know till now just how early the gender differences begin. She is just small and vicious. Her way or no one is going to be happy. She is not walking yet. I don't think it is because she can't but more that she just won't. She will stand on Hunter rocking chair using no hands to balance her. She will walk along all the furniture or anything she can hold onto. She will push rolling toys. But when Keith or even myself stand her up on the couch and try to get her to come to us the most she will gives us is a glare. Sometimes she puts her hands up in a jester of whoa-est me or I don't Know! She will yell at me in her language, only wants me, teases the boys with a taunt of a toy, and hits the boys when they are in her space. She isn't mean. She is a girl in every way and shape. If you don't have children of both sexes, there is no way to completely understand this.

All my boys are energetic, Fun-loving, crazy and loud. She is loud, mischievous, my cuddle bug, and fascinating. What an amazing adventure. Milestone.

Sick

Whoa this will be short. We, the babies (3) and myself are very sick with croup and a respiratory infection. Already spent one night in the ER with Cole and Luke. Addi is getting really sick and she is just like a rag doll. Now mom is toast. I ran a 5K this morning, cakes for a cause, right under 30 minutes. Well I shouldn't have. It took the last bit of strength I had to fight this cold. I feel awful and I have no idea how I am going to do it tomorrow on my own. I need to find someone to watch Hunter so we can all get to the doctor and try to heal. I can barely speak my throat is so sore. Plus I have this rotten egg taste coming up for my stomach making it worse.

Well off to make a plan to get threw tomorrow.